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Wednesday, July 29, 2009

How to Walk Your Everyday Life in Spiritual Shoes

Why is it hard to walk your everyday life in spiritual shoes?

Why are you wise while practicing your spirituality
and then so often unsure when it comes to making your life choices?

Most spiritual work focuses on personal evolution by giving you skills and tools to grow your spiritual nature.

It is true that you can study how to better know and Trust the Divine Presence in your life. You can also grow your ability to Love yourself and others unconditionally. You can hone your meditation techniques and better allow yourself to find Inner Peace and to connect to your innate Wisdom. You can practice certain techniques to reduce your mind’s influence over your life, and learn how to listen to your Heart. You can find a community that supports your need to pray effectively or that shares your spiritual beliefs.

All of these actions are commendable! All of them will assist you in growing your spiritual nature.

What will probably not happen– is that the courageous, spiritual work you do will have an affect on the life you lead outside of your spiritual community.

Most people attend church (or the spiritual community of their choice) once a week and find salvation, solace, answers or revelation. Then…they come Home renewed and live the same unfulfilled, daily life they led last week!

Why is this true?
Why are most people only spiritual once a week?
What is not happening?
Why aren’t the great lessons we’ve learned not trickling down into our lives in authentic, meaningful ways?
Why do we feel connected, enlightened and wise while participating in our spiritual work in our community of choice – and not when we come home to our life’s journey on Earth?

Most of you reading this are wise. You are not newcomers to spiritual work. You know what to do to live more Truthfully or meaningfully, but can not seem to incorporate it into your everyday life. You know your answers, and you are wise enough to know when you need some assistance. That’s why you are here in this moment...still searching.

So what is happening?

Here are three different reasons to consider:

1) You have not intended to bring your spiritual work to your every day life.
Perhaps your spiritual life is secret or feels too sacred to bring Home. You fear retribution or humiliation. This has probably happened to you in the past, and you have chosen to not share your spiritual beliefs with anyone outside of your community. This could be something you do consciously or unconsciously.

2) You do not know how to bring your spirituality Home.
Perhaps no one has ever taught you how to walk a spiritual life on Earth.
Perhaps a lack of integrative knowledge is the cause of your reticence. You simply do not know how to verbalize your spiritual feelings. This may be further complicated if you harbor any level of spiritual arrogance and think that others will not be able to understand you unless they themselves have performed the same type of in depth work you have. It may be true that others are less learned than you, but there is something to learn from everyone, absolutely everyone – and especially someone you have labeled less spiritual than yourself.

And the last reason why your spirituality may not be present in your every day life:

3) Your spiritual life is governed by factors you are not aware of. Unconscious beliefs may be confusing the outcome of your intentions. It is impossible to recognize what you are not aware of unless you acknowledge your lack of fulfillment and seriously examine your beliefs or search out support.

Whatever the reason…There will be a split between the best of what you know and the life you live. You will be wise on Sunday and a closet spiritualist the rest of the week. When this happens, you lose and so do those around you who could benefit from your wisdom.

Conscious and Unconscious Beliefs

Let’s talk about the affect of conscious and unconscious beliefs on your spiritual nature.

When you choose consciously…you are clear, empowered and open to What Is. How your life unfolds makes sense to you. You see the ramifications of your choices, and when your life does not meet your expectations, you change direction and make new choices.

When you choose unconsciously…you are confused, reduced and prone to feeling victimized. How your life unfolds is a mystery to you. You find yourself facing the same challenges that do not seem to resolve themselves no matter what you do. You feel victim to what happens and are often ineffective with your actions.

As a spiritual seeker you know that you are never punished, that the Divine is ever-supporting you, and that your life unfolds in ways that are perfect to meet your unique needs.

If you feel victim (and most of us do at one point or another as we journey), it is important to remember this: Your intentions direct your life’s journey, and your unconscious beliefs derail them.

You know an unconscious agenda is piloting your life if your spiritual goals are not integrated into your everyday life. For instance: You want to be trusting but you often find yourself needing to get things back into control – or you find that certain people continue to push your buttons – or regardless of your job performance, you are not recognized for your efforts – or no matter what you do your spouse treats you the same way.

If something unconscious is directing your life, you will not know exactly what it is – but you will know it is having an affect on your life. You will feel it. You will see it. You may even taste it!


How to Talk the Talk…and When to Not Talk the Talk

Talking the talk is about your communication with yourself and developing an inner dialogue that allows you to communicate clearly and meaningfully with others. Once you know what you believe, you can integrate it into your everyday life, and you can live your spirituality.

Two of the cornerstones for the spiritual seeker are meditation and prayer. Since you know this to be true then make a commitment to create the time and space for them in your life. This means that your every day should include meditation and prayer.

This first step allows you to begin the integration process. With this promise to yourself, you begin to grow your every day spirituality. Since our goal in this class is to integrate your spirituality into your every day then creating a daily inner practice gives you an aspect of your spirituality to share with others.

There is no need to share exactly how and what you practice, but you can share that you do make time to grow your spiritual nature every day.

Answer questions only as they come to you. (If you preach to anybody, they will tune you out.) Most of your questions will pertain to how you find time to do it, but those closer to you may want to know exactly what you are doing for 20-30 minutes each morning and/or evening. Excellent one word answers are: reflecting, meditating, praying or journaling. There is never a need to explain your process or personal spiritual beliefs unless you are asked.

That being said…there are some safe topics: Unconditional Love, meditation, and the weather. (Yes, the weather! It can be a wonderful, metaphorical barometer for What Is.)

Topics where it is advised that you listen openly to and not share about: The Divine (which includes God, Buddha, Krishna, etc) and personal relationships.

Even if you have training as a spiritual teacher, one of the most important lessons you should have been taught is the power of open listening where you listen with an attitude of complete Faith in the other person’s ability to know their own answers. It is your attentive, Loving silence that allows for the birth of Inner Wisdom in others. This is how you not talk the talk – with wisdom.


Walking the Walk is About Not Walking Anywhere

…but wearing your spiritual shoes with Grace. What does this mean?

Who you are spiritually is in your Beingness or the resonance you carry with you in every moment of your every day. It is not about where you go. It is not about what you do. It is about who you Be.

This Beingness is seen and felt when you get clear on your spiritual beliefs, when you are authentically you, when you risk being who you are a Heart…It is then that Grace speaks reverently.

Once you are comfortable in your spiritual shoes then you can attempt to walk your dualistic life on Earth in them. An attitude of Reverence will serve you well as you walk. Trust you will be taken exactly where you need to go.
Trust everything you see, hear and touch has been placed before you out of Divine Inspiration.

Integrating your spiritual and Earthly natures is challenging, but the rewards of living in the flow of What Is without judgment or agenda is a blessing in itself.

The less you resist your life, the healthier you will be physically, the more joyful you will feel emotionally, the clearer your thoughts will be, and the deeper your spirituality can evolve.

Walk with Faith not dictates.
Walk with others not arrogance.
Walk in Harmony with all schools of thought and all spiritual doctrine.
Walk with an open Heart that welcomes All That Is.

Know yourself with clarity, so others can learn who they are by your example.

Be more yourself so you do not have to assert yourself.

Aspire to be less your self, less a piece of the Whole – and more an integral aspect of the Whole.

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Written by Corinne S. Ramage, Leader in True Wellness® Studies
Creator of The Spiritual Healthcare Network of online programs
Author of “The Art and Practice of True Wellness” and other titles

Thursday, April 23, 2009

CANCER: Self-Love Gone Astray

Part 2 from the "The Spiritual Implications of Illness and Dysfunction" series

As long as there is life,
there is the potential
to develop a deeper understanding
of What Is –
and to self-discover
a transcendent sense of well-being.

Our goal is to live the life gifted to us
aligned with ‘The Meaningful”
and Loving to our fullest potential.


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Cancer: Self-Love Gone Astray

All illness begins on the spiritual level of our Beingness in some form of misunderstanding or misalignment with information. The trickle down of this misalignment creates the manifest mental, emotional and physical dysfunction. In all illness, the silent prayer is for self-destruct. It must be recognized and redirected.

General Spiritual Read of Cancer:

Cancer is about the absence of Self-Love or the inability to truly receive Love. Everything is given away. The body feels the disconnection from the essence of self. If this pattern is repeated long enough, the body may decide to create something new at the cellular level because it longs to be Loved.

Without Love, we die. The physical body knows this, and left long enough it begins to scramble in desperation to create something new that it deems Loveable.

This begins the cellular miscommunication and alternative creation that has trickled down through the thought and emoting processes of the individual. The physical body will do everything it can to redirect the focus back to Self-Love. It is screaming, “Look at ME! Do you Love me now? Is this new form Acceptable? Please Love ME!”

Cancer will force the redirection of focus. The patient will have to stop their altruistic work. They will have to care for themselves. The cancer will direct focus back to the individual, and it will also direct the focus of others that surround the individual back to them. Family and friends will gather around the cancer patient to support them. Love will pour into and towards the individual for healing. People will say things like, “This couldn’t have happened to a nicer person. They do so much for others! For all that they give, this is so sad.” All of this out pouring of concern and Love will assist in the healing, but the greatest need will be for Self-Love.

The cancer cell is called in to construct a new, more Lovable self, but the cancer cell itself never intends to be Loved. It intends to destroy the old. Cancer resonates with the state of ‘no self-love or I don’t exist.’ The cancer patient has defined self through their service to others or by how much others appreciate them. The self simply does not exist.

The cancer cell is the consummate warrior – killing, transforming, and cannibalizing its enemy which is the healthy, unloved cell.

While the physical body is distressed and collapsed, the cancer is virile and strong.

General Energy Read of Cancer:

For the person with a cancer diagnosis, as with any dysfunction, there has been a long time resistance to the messages from Spirit. The self has begun to disappear because it has been resisted or denied for many years possibly even for an entire lifetime. The physical body in its infinite wisdom is changing its cellular structure to see if the new structure will gain respect and meet approval.

Emotional/Mental Read of the Cancer Patient:

There is a lack of self-love that is devolving into self-hatred. The perception is that life is out of control. Responses will be a mix of apathy, confusion, resistance and anger. Behaviors will seem to be out of character as the struggle to be well intensifies. The cancer patient has dedicated themselves to the care of others or to a cause. Most decisions in the past have been self-sacrificing. The fight back to wellness, to balance the dysfunction, will by necessity have to include many difficult self-indulgent choices.

Soul Mission Qualities of the Cancer Patient:

• A dedication to personal mission and a great sense of responsibility
• A caring, compassionate Heart
• A need to resolve relationships (self, others and the Divine)
• Great empathy for others
• A deep calling to find resolution around issues related to the spiritual concepts of Unconditional Love and Self-Love.

The cancer patient has distorted the mission and decides to dedicate their compassionate Heart to others only. They define their personal worth by how much they sacrifice for others.

Healing Response to Cancer:

The cancer patient has become the loser in the battle with the consummate warrior. The savior archetype must be activated. Here are some ways that the cancer patient can heal or save themselves through spiritual action:

• Open to the idea of making a new connection to self
• Learn Self-Love
• Heal any issues related to self-hatred
• Intend to resolve any anger issues
• Forgive self and others for choices made
• Practice Acceptance
• Aspire to know Truth in a new way
• Honor the sacrificial role that has been played and see it for its consequences to the self
• Learn to accept the Love freely given by others
• Be more Hopeful, Trusting, Faithful and Loving
• Welcome Unconditional Love
• Develop a clearer relationship with the Divine

All of these concerns are addressed in the book called
“The Art and Practice of True Wellness” and in the 16 month, opt-in anytime online program called “Touch Stones to True Wellness.”


Personal Declarations for the Cancer Patient

It would serve the person with the cancer diagnosis well to explore the following personal declarations. Although the issues they present will either be denied or discounted as important, they are pivotally important to well-being.

Personal declarations are best utilized when recited softly out loud two times a day – once in the morning upon rising and once in the evening before retiring. They can, of course, be printed out, kept on-person, and recited as needed. Journaling around thoughts and feelings is highly recommended as is conferring with a professional therapist or counselor who supports the healing intentions of the individual.


Personal Declarations to Support True Wellness

I have Loved others more than I have Loved myself.
Because I do not know myself,
I have dedicated myself to causes
that I think will define me.

Today
I know that my cancer tells me
that I am Loving others at the expense
of my own well-being.

In an effort to heal,
I allow myself to Love me
as much as I Love others.

Healing from cancer is not about Loving others less.
It is about Loving myself equally.


I do not know how to do this, but my Heart does.
I trust my Heart to show me how to Love myself.
When I Love myself,
I begin to truly see me and to be me.

I desire to know and Love myself.

I trust the Divine will show me the way if I get lost.


Note: None of the recommendations in this series negate the medical treatment the patient feels aligned with. This work is to be used in conjunction with the patient’s medical choices.

To a true and lasting sense of well-being…


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Written by Corinne S. Ramage, Leader in True Wellness® Studies
Creator of The Spiritual Healthcare Network of online programs
Author of “The Art and Practice of True Wellness”

Saturday, February 21, 2009

The Search for ‘The Meaningful’ Inspires Hope

When it surfaces, The Meaningful stops us on the path of life.
We are stunned by its beauty and relevance,
and nothing is ever the same again.


The Meaningful eludes us when life becomes too complicated or senseless. Without The Meaningful making an occasional appearance in our lives, we lose our way. We retreat into a frightening disconnected reality where we feel alone, confused and unmotivated. An array of physical complications set in like fatigue, headaches and muscle pains. Without The Meaningful, life can feel as if it is not worth living.

The Meaningful, though, is always with us. We can not always see it or feel it – but it is with us hidden in the shadows or just beneath the surface of What Is. If we have lost our ability to see, hear or feel it, we will have to attune with it and search it out.

Our lives are made up of a number of seemingly discordant and also harmonious events. We feel despondent when things configure in ways that are unfathomable or illogical. We feel elated when events align in ways that support our personal goals. Neither of these experiences will be lasting unless we incorporate them into our lives.

When we incorporate or integrate all of our experiences both the discordant and the quick-fix-harmonious, we see beyond them, our world shifts and reconfigures, and life feels balanced again. It is when the heavens tilt slightly and give us a new perception of the familiar, that The Meaningful is discovered. This can not happen unless we direct our focus or attune to The Meaningful. But exactly what are we attuning to?

Recently I advised a client concerned about a number of difficult issues, to focus on The Meaningful and to let the rest go. She had every intention of doing this, and is actually very good at following through with her commitments to herself, but she found this assignment a challenge. She is a very sensory person who fully understands the energies of Gratitude, Discernment and Truth, but she could not get a firm grasp on the assignment and asked me a day later, “What is The Meaningful? What exactly am I reaching for?” What great questions!

'The Meaningful' Defined

The Meaningful is our Heart or Soul speaking. It is what wakes us up to the calling within or our destiny. It directs us towards what we must move towards to feel fulfilled.

The Meaningful has archetypal significance. The birth of a child, a breath taking sunset or even an untimely death are all events that can bring us to our knees in awe and gratitude, changing our perception of ourselves.

An athlete may discover that competition is motivating but that personal triumph has far greater impact on their sense of accomplishment.

A woman drowning in feelings of ineptness or failure may discover that she never was inept just believed she was – and so rise from the ashes of her life with newfound strength.

A man having lost a job and a pension package late in life may discover he has a true gift for painting the feelings of angst.

Someone plagued with a life long disability may discover how that disability led them to the exact people and situations that brought them Inner Peace.

The death of a loved one may inspire someone to powerfully assist others in their grief or to discover the cure for an illness.

Bringing ‘The Meaningful’ into Focus

When we set our intention to self-discover The Meaningful, many factors we perceive as the absolute Truth begin to gently reposition themselves. The chaotic theater of events and thoughts that is our perceptual base, morphs into a cohesive and brilliant work of art. The stage blurs, there is a dazzling display of lights and effects – and then The Meaningful is revealed. We may have to stay with the chaotic vision and feelings for awhile but as long as we stay clear with our intention, The Meaningful will reveal itself.

We will recognize The Meaningful because it is well defined – not muted, pastel or non-descript. It has a clear voice that tells us the answer. It is a spot of light shining on the perception of life that fulfills or enriches us. The quintessential factors important to who we are step forward for our consideration, and we applaud!

When The Meaningful emerges, we emit a great sigh of relief. We are awash with a sense of Peace that comes with the realization that the Truth has been revealed. We see what we didn’t before. We grasp the ‘why,’ and everything else drops away into insignificance. The magnitude of the relevance fills us to overflowing with understanding. We are washed over and through with this understanding, and we feel Peaceful, replete, and full of Hope.

What to Do: Specifics

When we think things don’t make sense or we are bored or depressed with life, we must stop and ask ourselves, “Where is The Meaningful in this situation?”

If our actions are distancing us from The Meaningful, we must tweak our actions. We can not, though, change how we live life unless we first intend to find The Meaningful – and then anything that is insignificant or lacks meaning will drop away. The meaningless simply can not exist in the same place or time as The Meaningful.

The Meaningful is in everything and everywhere.
When it makes its dazzling appearance,
we feel blessed down to our very bones,
and everything changes and reconfigures for us –
and that is definitely Hopeful!


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Written by Corinne S. Ramage, Leader in True Wellness® Studies
Creator of The Spiritual Healthcare Network of online programs
Author of “The Art and Practice of True Wellness”